When you learn what the title of this post refers to, you will see
that the blog has stooped to a whole new level of low :D Yes, I'm
talking about The Secret Life of American Teenagers :( You know,
that show where you have 6 teenagers and all sorts of possible relations
between them (very resource-efficient producers) . It's actually pretty
good sometimes...even though most of the dialogues are beeped! Anyway,
watching the recent episodes made me wonder again what sort of person I
was and should be: Ben or Ricky.
When things are alright, Ricky seems like a selfish, villainous character and Ben seems to be the nice, gentle one. But when troubles came, Ricky faced them head on and took full responsibility. He left off fooling around with Adrian, took a job and started caring for John and helping Amy out. And since he's met his biological mother, he is trying his best to help her get her life back on track. He didn't get bogged down by what fate threw at him and didn't run away from his troubles. You gotta admire someone like that...no wonder almost every female character is in love with him :D Ben, on the other hand, likes to look like the good guy but does not know how to live up to it if circumstances aren't favourable. He claims to be in love with Amy but sleeps with Adrian and dates Grace...sheesh. He doesn't take responsibility for anything he's done or lays a claim to. He just wants his life to be smooth and easy...and when anything threatens that, he runs away to the most comfortable alternative available, all the while crying about how things are tough for him. What a sissy -_-
The point is, I've been grappling with these paradoxical personalities ever since I watched Crash (good cop-bad cop) and have been wondering if these personality types are exceptions or the general rule. If they are the rule, then I have a bad feeling I'm a Ben :'( I always gave a lot of importance to being a good person. Nothing wrong with that but I also give a lot of importance to being seen as a good person. That's where the problem lies. I think that makes me a bit of a coward and I can be really good only when I stop caring about appearances. Now, I have started to appreciate personalities like Scarlett O'Hara. I had always felt obliged to view her as a more villainous character. I think that is because my mental conditioning (developed on own + inherited as part of the human race) has taught me to view women who steal husbands and are not gentle as villains even if they have bravely and single-handedly supported families and saved lives >:(
But now I have realized that courage is the most important quality, without which the rest are incomplete (JK Rowling got that right :) ). One of my favourite profs at IIML once said "Courage is the pre-requisite to integrity". Truer words were never spoken! I don't care much about appearances of politeness and goodness if you can't stand up for yourself, and by other people, when the going gets tough. Here's to real character!
When things are alright, Ricky seems like a selfish, villainous character and Ben seems to be the nice, gentle one. But when troubles came, Ricky faced them head on and took full responsibility. He left off fooling around with Adrian, took a job and started caring for John and helping Amy out. And since he's met his biological mother, he is trying his best to help her get her life back on track. He didn't get bogged down by what fate threw at him and didn't run away from his troubles. You gotta admire someone like that...no wonder almost every female character is in love with him :D Ben, on the other hand, likes to look like the good guy but does not know how to live up to it if circumstances aren't favourable. He claims to be in love with Amy but sleeps with Adrian and dates Grace...sheesh. He doesn't take responsibility for anything he's done or lays a claim to. He just wants his life to be smooth and easy...and when anything threatens that, he runs away to the most comfortable alternative available, all the while crying about how things are tough for him. What a sissy -_-
The point is, I've been grappling with these paradoxical personalities ever since I watched Crash (good cop-bad cop) and have been wondering if these personality types are exceptions or the general rule. If they are the rule, then I have a bad feeling I'm a Ben :'( I always gave a lot of importance to being a good person. Nothing wrong with that but I also give a lot of importance to being seen as a good person. That's where the problem lies. I think that makes me a bit of a coward and I can be really good only when I stop caring about appearances. Now, I have started to appreciate personalities like Scarlett O'Hara. I had always felt obliged to view her as a more villainous character. I think that is because my mental conditioning (developed on own + inherited as part of the human race) has taught me to view women who steal husbands and are not gentle as villains even if they have bravely and single-handedly supported families and saved lives >:(
But now I have realized that courage is the most important quality, without which the rest are incomplete (JK Rowling got that right :) ). One of my favourite profs at IIML once said "Courage is the pre-requisite to integrity". Truer words were never spoken! I don't care much about appearances of politeness and goodness if you can't stand up for yourself, and by other people, when the going gets tough. Here's to real character!
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